Of course we all want to make the best decision, the right decision, the sensible decision. Decisions can potentially flow through to significant consequences not just for yourself but for your team or organisation or even your career opportunities.
Yet I don’t believe decisions are stressful. It is the rumination, circular thinking, lack of self belief and imagining of possible outcomes that comes before the decision that is stressful.
The thing is most of us perfectionists can find ourselves caught in a never ending loop that we justify as “analysis” or “risk assessment” or “attention to detail”, which all sound like sensibly intelligent approaches to making a decision.
No don’t get me wrong; I am not saying you should throw the baby out with the bath water and leap into the unknown whilst chanting positive affirmations. Due diligence, consideration of involved persons, and ensuring your know the critical facts of the matter are always a good idea. But I contend that 8 times out of 10 you know in your gut the decision within seconds of asking the question.
Whether the question is “Will you go on a second date?”, “Should we hire John or Richard?”, or “Is it time to move onto another position?” your unconscious mind has amassed your vast storehouse of experiences, blended them with your intuition and given your conscious mind the heads up on what extra information is required. Yet it is here in the conscious mind that we get stuck on bits of information that have triggered our threat response.
Only you can know if the fear is justified or whether it is just a furphy to distract you from stepping out of your comfort zone and really living on purpose.
Step away from the spinning wheels and make a decision. It is in this chaos that self doubt will thrive, stress will manifest and procrastination will be triumphant.
Join me for a fun and inspiring three hour workshop in Cairns on 25 June and in Brisbane on 2 July to take charge of your mind and Find Calm in the Chaos.